Thanks to everyone. It is so true as one reader said, "the future does not lie in the past". The thing with P. is I know I could never have feelings for him again. Once gone for someone, I don't think I'm capable of getting them back. And the main reason for that is how could I ever trust anyone again who disappeared on me that way? I know myself and I'll always be wondering when he might do it again.
So I told my friend who was there for me back then. Her reaction was pretty funny:
"You mean the guy who you brought the salmon back from Alaska for and cooked that whole meal and he bailed via text. Are you nuts??".
Me: Umm..yeah. I know, stupid I would ever respond to him.
Friend: I just remember the hilarious poem you wrote about him..What did you call him again?
Me: Dragon Breath
(Because one night he had the worst breath ever..Yuck..just the thought of it. I wish I could find that poem to write here. Sometimes I write funny, pissed off poems to get my closure with things).
So then I tell my friend how his latest idea is going out on his boat for the afternoon. Now that is tempting because I have been dying to go boating for so long.
"I don't think that's a very good idea", friend said.
"Yeah, I know.. Mama always said, 'don't go out on boats with strange boys'.
I mean, what if he is psycho and I never fully saw it and he kills me at sea, throws me overboard and nobody knows about it because my parents are out of the country and well, I take days to return people's voice mails anyway. I don't have a job to miss showing up at so nobody would know there. Heck, I don't even have a pet who would miss me. Perhaps my loyal blog readers will wonder why I mysteriously stopped writing, but really that's it."
The conversation pretty much ended there when I realize I have ZERO trust with this guy. And know deep down seeing him again would not be good. Plus I have zero interest in him. Although I am interested to hear about his job search progress, since that's what unemployed people like to do- talk with people in the same boat..ha, no pun intended. But no, at this point the past is better left in the past.
Although I still have that little devil tapping on my shoulder saying, "do it..use him for a fun day of boating!"
Which brings me to this week's life coach's tips. Funny she sent me this quote today:
Quote from Lao-tzu:
"In order to eliminate the negative influences, simply ignore them"
Yeah, I should have just ignored him!
And since some of you say you really like her advice, I've summed it up below. Enjoy!
Are you willing to think or do anything to live your best life? Are you willing to give up your excuses about why you can't, why you are not good enough and just give your best? Excuses are our way of getting ourselves off the hook. If you want to thrive and not just survive your life, try dropping the excuses and just be willing to improve the way you think! When you do that you are free! Finally! Take a risk! Challenge yourself to reach for something better today!
Some typical excuses:
It will be too hard ; It won't work out
I don't deserve it ; I don't have time
I don't have the discipline ; I can't afford it
No one will help me ; I'm not strong enough
I don't have the energy ; My family will be upset; I'm too busy
If you want to live your best life you will have to drop the excuses and just live with faith that you have all it takes right now! It's all a choice!
You are the master of your fate!
Be conscious about what you are giving your attention to.
9 comments:
Thanks for sharing the life coach's advice. The more I read, the more I'm convinced I need one. I hope things end up working out alright with P and other guys. I agree that if he has a history of disappearing then he is likely to do it again and on a boat that can't be good... It could end up like that Ashley Judd movie, Double Jeopardy. Ha. Regardless, this is just the two cents of a stranger but I'm sure you can find another (better) situation to go boating.
I love how your reasoning out your though before you put them into action.
I see this blog is moving from negative to positives which is also a great thing.
Keep on the positive front....
True, true and true!
And I'm glad you're not giving that guy the time of day. He doesn't deserve it. Or you.
Way to go girl! I am super proud of you. It is so true. What we spend our time doing is what we become and it is so important to have faith and take that leap of faith. Really in everything, not only in relationships, but in working out, exploring that dream, and never giving up. Thanks for your motivation and strong spirit!
you are so right. i have had some of those same excuses for not doing certain things in life. sometimes you just have to stop using excuses and just go for it. its true that sometinmes things may not work out but its worth trying out first to see if it does and if it doesnt then thats ok too. you never know unless you try first.
wow - that last part really resonated with me. I spent my childhood traveling and doing a lot of cool things - & lately ive been saying "i dont need to do cool stuff, ive seen it all" but thats not true. Im trying to become more self believing & get out there & do what I want :D
thanks for the push
Hi TCG - yes that little voice that sometimes tells you that you can't do it, don't need to do it, that it wouldn't work out anyways, that it'll be okay if you don't do it. I've heard that voice a few times and have largely regreted listening to it. Sometimes, a little confidence and perseverance will take you a long ways. You're doing well TCG - and your mom was right, don't go out on boats with strange boys. It's a long swim back to shore in your jeans.
I love your quote by Lao-tzu! That's such great advice. Sorry to hear about the jerky guy. Can't believe he bailed on Salmon night via text. Eek.
Also, sorry to read about the job loss, but your fortune cookie that says "You're Fired" off to the side is funny.
I loved that you named him Dragon Breath and wrote a poem about him.
I have to admit, your life coach's words really hit home for me. Thanks for posting.
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