Thursday, June 25, 2009
Let Bygones be Bygones
Thanks to everyone. It is so true as one reader said, "the future does not lie in the past". The thing with P. is I know I could never have feelings for him again. Once gone for someone, I don't think I'm capable of getting them back. And the main reason for that is how could I ever trust anyone again who disappeared on me that way? I know myself and I'll always be wondering when he might do it again.
So I told my friend who was there for me back then. Her reaction was pretty funny:
"You mean the guy who you brought the salmon back from Alaska for and cooked that whole meal and he bailed via text. Are you nuts??".
Me: Umm..yeah. I know, stupid I would ever respond to him.
Friend: I just remember the hilarious poem you wrote about him..What did you call him again?
Me: Dragon Breath
(Because one night he had the worst breath ever..Yuck..just the thought of it. I wish I could find that poem to write here. Sometimes I write funny, pissed off poems to get my closure with things).
So then I tell my friend how his latest idea is going out on his boat for the afternoon. Now that is tempting because I have been dying to go boating for so long.
"I don't think that's a very good idea", friend said.
"Yeah, I know.. Mama always said, 'don't go out on boats with strange boys'.
I mean, what if he is psycho and I never fully saw it and he kills me at sea, throws me overboard and nobody knows about it because my parents are out of the country and well, I take days to return people's voice mails anyway. I don't have a job to miss showing up at so nobody would know there. Heck, I don't even have a pet who would miss me. Perhaps my loyal blog readers will wonder why I mysteriously stopped writing, but really that's it."
The conversation pretty much ended there when I realize I have ZERO trust with this guy. And know deep down seeing him again would not be good. Plus I have zero interest in him. Although I am interested to hear about his job search progress, since that's what unemployed people like to do- talk with people in the same boat..ha, no pun intended. But no, at this point the past is better left in the past.
Although I still have that little devil tapping on my shoulder saying, "do it..use him for a fun day of boating!"
Which brings me to this week's life coach's tips. Funny she sent me this quote today:
Quote from Lao-tzu:
"In order to eliminate the negative influences, simply ignore them"
Yeah, I should have just ignored him!
And since some of you say you really like her advice, I've summed it up below. Enjoy!
Are you willing to think or do anything to live your best life? Are you willing to give up your excuses about why you can't, why you are not good enough and just give your best? Excuses are our way of getting ourselves off the hook. If you want to thrive and not just survive your life, try dropping the excuses and just be willing to improve the way you think! When you do that you are free! Finally! Take a risk! Challenge yourself to reach for something better today!
Some typical excuses:
It will be too hard ; It won't work out
I don't deserve it ; I don't have time
I don't have the discipline ; I can't afford it
No one will help me ; I'm not strong enough
I don't have the energy ; My family will be upset; I'm too busy
If you want to live your best life you will have to drop the excuses and just live with faith that you have all it takes right now! It's all a choice!
You are the master of your fate!
Be conscious about what you are giving your attention to.