Wednesday, June 17, 2009
The Date Checklist
My mind was racing last night with a flurry of bad date memories. I lost track at about the count of 40 dates and realize I need to stop this insanity soon.
A few years ago I was fed up with all the jerks I was dating (yeah, kinda like now). and called up my guy friend. I told him, "I just want a guy who cares".
I specifically remember his reply: "Caring is easy, you're picking all wrong". And perhaps I was.
After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I can't stick to my usual type. I need to stop the madness.
As a wonderful reader suggested, I will use a mental checklist to weed out the losers/jerks/players early on. So here goes...The new and improved checklist to help figure who to weed out after the first (or few) date.
Caring - good hearted
Great sense of humor
Genuine - Keeps his word - shows up when he says he will, follows through, etc.
Is a true gentleman type..very respectful, walks me home, etc.
Optimistic, positive type of guy (okay, most of the time..we all have our down times)
Thoughtful- does nice, little things and appreciates nice gestures as well
Athletic - loves outdoor activities; keeps a healthy lifestyle
Loves to travel
Loves his family and friends
Social - likes to do things with friends, not just with each other all the time
Handsome...would be nice.
and then all the negatives popped into my mind. Oh boy, here we go..
Isn't a chronic texter when he could just pick up the phone to call
Can't smoke or do drugs and doesn't drink a lot
Doesn't judge others - like myself who is unemployed
Doesn't complain a lot
Is not the controlling type
Isn't materialistic, doesn't boast/brag
I could go on with the negatives but will stop here. I have much less "wants" on my list, than the 40 "wants" on my original list. So how did I do? Improvement from the old list? A good list to find a NICE guy?? I'm less picky but still wondering if this guy actually exists in NYC. And that is my question of the day if anyone can answer. Does a truly caring guy under the age of 40 exist in this town?!
I know, I know...There must be some.
I will keep the hope. After all, I know nobody is perfect. But I still like to believe there is the perfect somebody out there for everyone.