Tuesday, June 16, 2009
The Boyfriend "Check-list"
One great reader who has been here since the beginning recommended I make up a "check-list" for dating. This can easily help weed out the wrong ones from the beginning.
Meeting so many creeps over so many years has made me realize what is truly important in a guy and what I really want.
If I were to write a checklist now of how it looked years ago, I realize it appears totally shallow. Really, you have to laugh at how superficial it is and I'm not even sure if I realized that years ago. Go ahead, call me a shallow b*tch, I deserve it now that I look back..
Height- I've always had a height obsession. It started back at UConn when I lived next door to 4 of the basketball players. Really, it's the only reason I watch bball games - the guys. I'll never forget when I was at a business dinner in the city and 6of the NY Knicks came in. I was so awe-struck through the entire meal, I didn't even eat.
Dating a guy only over 6 feet is WAY too selective. I realize now all that is necessary is he is taller than I am in heels.
Deep Voice - One guy I dated did voice-overs. His voice was so amazing that I actually saved voice mails from him for about a year. My friends would flip when they heard his voice. Again, this should not be important. Just as long as the guy doesn't sound like Kermit I'm good.
Blue eyes- A perfect example of how picky I was. I love blue eyes. Now I know, that eye color really doesn't matter. As long as he doesn't have creepy eyes, like scary 'cupcake date' that spook you out when you look into them.
Good job/good dates- I think I was a job snob back in the day. I loved going to rooftop bars, great restaurants and the car service that a lot of times was offered. This was back when the finance guys were booming and throwing money around like it was water. The schmucks were probably expensing the entire date. It was fun for a while but I truly know now this stuff is not important and a lot of those types of guys just keep moving on from one girl to the next.
These days if you give me a nice guy who takes me to a pizza joint, I'm happy. (as long as it is good pizza)
Adventurous/Exciting - Maybe the spontaenous, exciting type of lifestyle these guys led went right along with their dating the 'flavor of the month'. Adventurous is still good, but I need to find someone who is more stable.
And this brings me to my present check-list, which I will post tomorrow.
I'm proud to say it is WAY different than this last one. Because I truly now know what I want and most importantly, what is most important in a guy. So, bring the brown-eyed, shorter guys on! :)